We have an innate right to be happy, yet it seems that negativity is the primary way of the world. Here are some suggestions for remaining positive regardless of others or your surroundings:
1. Choose to live without judgment, and just appreciate people for who they are or what they choose. It’s not easy, but you can, through determination, get better and better at letting go of the hold that judgment has over you.
2. Remember that all people are doing the best that they can within their level of awareness.
When we aim to understand someone else’s life or story, we bring about a new illuminating perspective. We can grasp, in real terms, the concept that all people are doing the best they can within their level of awareness. One’s level of awareness is the lens of perspective based on one’s personal separation from reliable, unconditionally loving sources. Perhaps we were neglected, abused, or ignored. Maybe we just grew up in an environment (family, education, religion, geography) which was not connected to universal wisdom and, subsequently, propagated misbeliefs.
3. To stay above the fray, honor your body. Each body has a unique set of optimal patterns, foods, focuses, and exercise regimens, in addition to distinct likes and aversions. As much as you may educate yourself about nutrition, exercise, as well as medications and other substances, how your choices affect your body can only be determined by you. And whether you listen or not, your body is always attempting to direct you to a regimen that allows for your good health and vibrancy.
When you ignore patterns that are best for your body, you will likely feel more negative. Once healthy habits are formed, a large measure of negative perceptions dissolve.
4. Pay attention to your focus. Where, and with whom, are you spending your time? What is surrounding you? If you would like to free yourself of negativity, free yourself of negative exposure. You’re probably thinking, “that’s easier said than done.” And then the thinking may go to …
I would love to get a new job, but I can’t because of …
I want to lose ten pounds, but I’m just not able to because …
I really need to leave this relationship, but I can’t afford to …
Every sentence that starts with a positive focus and ends with a “but,” wipes out the good intention of the opening thought. Get off your “buts.” You know you can creatively improve your life and your focus. You are strong, resilient, smart, and energetic. Don’t let some little disempowering self-talk or poor habits prevent you from remembering these truths.
5. Follow your dreams, passions, and interests. We often get caught up in putting others’ needs first, but people can manage far more of their own lives than they let on. Give their responsibilities back to them. You are not a better person by sacrificing, and when you do sacrifice, you will find yourself spending more time with people who are not uplifting.
6. Promote peace within you. Pursue quieting your mind, and growing a knowing interconnectedness with the universe and all that exists. These practices can be as simple as unplugging for an hour of solitude, walking in nature, creating something, meditating, or yoga. You know what works for you.
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