4 Steps to Defeat Negativity - (Get off your “buts”)


REMINDER from the previous posts: There are four unique vehicles for discovery on earth that cannot be explored in other realms. I can assist you in remembering many things that you forgot due to earth amnesia by explaining these miraculous tools for discovery. During the next month’s essays, I will address each vehicle with tips about how to make each a beneficial opportunity rather than a force of resistance. This essay is the 5th in the series.]


When you were born, you knew you had the innate right to be happy, but since then, it has been taught or modeled to you that negativity is the primary way of the world. If you are sincerely interested in returning to a state of positivity, then here are some suggestions that work, and they work with as much success as the vigor you put into practicing them.

1. The body

Each body has a unique set of optimal patterns, foods, focuses, and exercise regimens, in addition to distinct likes and aversions. As much as you may educate yourself about nutrition, exercise, as well as medications and other substances, how your choices affect your body can only be determined by you. And whether you listen or not, your body is always attempting to direct you to a regimen that allows for your good health and vibrancy.

When you ignore patterns that are best for your body, you will likely feel more negative and make poorer life choices. The trap is that these choices can easily become habits that feel as though they are immutable truths. It takes less effort to eat poorly, exercise inadequately, and/or ingest substances that deplete your vitality, then it does to choose wisely for your unique body.

Once healthy habits are formed, a large measure of negative perceptions dissolve.

One caveat: when one obsesses with regimented eating or exercise choices, the compulsiveness will likely create more challenges than the regimen aimed to solve.

2. The focus

Where, and with whom, are you spending your time? What is surrounding you? If you would like to free yourself of negativity, free yourself of negative exposure. You’re probably thinking, “that’s easier said than done.” And then the thinking may go to …

I would love to get a new job, but I can’t because of …

I want to lose ten pounds, but I’m just not able to because …

I really need to leave this relationship, but I can’t afford to …

Every sentence that starts with a positive focus and ends with a “but,” wipes out the good intention of the opening thought. Get off your “buts.” You know you can creatively improve your life and your focus. You are strong, resilient, smart, and energetic. Don’t let some little disempowering self-talk or poor habits prevent you from remembering these truths.

3. The spirit

For once and for always, develop spiritual practices that you love. Spiritual pursuits need not have any relationship with religion – they’re simply choices that promote peace, a quiet mind, and a knowing interconnectedness with the universe and all that exists. These practices can be as simple as unplugging for an hour of solitude, walking in nature, creating something, meditating, or yoga. You know what works for you.

4. The judgment

IF YOU DO ONLY ONE THING FROM THIS LIST – this is the one that will have the greatest long-term effect on your ability to be free from negativity.

Choose to live without judgment, and just appreciate people for who they are or what they choose. It’s not easy, but you can, through determination, get better and better at letting go of the nasty hold that judgment has over you.

You can have and honor preferences, but your preferences do not have to be based on “better” or “worse.” Just because you like certain things, doesn’t mean that that which you do not prefer is unworthy. The rich variety of people, opportunity, and experiences on earth means that there’s enough for all tastes. And what makes your heart sing may be repugnant to someone else (think eating liver lol).

Remembering that negativity is a tool for discovery available only in the earth realm helps us to reject our alignment with it as a fuel. And we are getting there, faster than ever. Your intention to cut the ties with negative habits is a powerful step in that process.

The four suggestions outlaid are given in simple form. For additional information about how to release negative thoughts, please click here for a PDF copy of my essay, Freedom From Negative Thinking, the synthesis of my powerful seminar of the same name. Further, if you would like more clarity about any one of the above, please refer to my books, essays, audio programs, and YouTube channel. I have delved into each topic with great depth and with powerful exercises that help the changes you intend to stick. For the ultimate push forward, please register for my online class, Happyin90.com. I guarantee you will be happier after completing the program and exercises in this course. And if you’d like a little less of a boost for now, please attend my seminars. As 2020 is approaching, our warm-up period for preparing for the new world paradigm is coming to an end. You want to be fully equipped and ready for this exciting upcoming era.

SHINE ON!