If you think about your worst childhood moments, there is a vibration associated with that experience. Think about it. You can almost feel the body’s reaction. It’s as if your cells hole up in steel containers, just trying to protect themselves from the happenings. You may remember a mixture of alertness, avoidance, resistance, fear, anger, helplessness, or confusion - a toxic cocktail that destroys harmony. Whether you experienced that dreadful vibration once, twice, or many times throughout childhood, on some level of consciousness you remember that vibration.
The more often you returned to that vibration as a child, the more likely you are to return to that vibration as an adult. You do not necessarily recreate the exact experiences, but you duplicate the effect of the experience.
As I observe clients on the brink of increased happiness, I also observe self-sabotage that accompanies the new joy. It’s as if the body continually attempts to echo that familiar vibration of childhood. The new level of contentment is unfamiliar, therefore, the client has no paradigm for how to live to that level.
Hard to believe, but true! It’s difficult for us to accept, and live in, new levels of happiness. The process takes time, focus, and determination.
To step into that new energy space and stay there, certain fundamental changes can pave the way:
1. Believe that you have the right to live there. Believe that you have the birthright to happiness, fulfillment, joy, love, and abundance. There is nothing that you have ever done, or not done, that removes that birthright.
2. Fundamentally work toward increasing your love of self. Self-love is the foundation for all success. The book, Begin Here, is a great start.
3. Envision yourself being happier. Take the time to imagine what that looks like, feels like, and sounds like.
4. Find ways to enjoy peace without volatility. Oddly, some “bodies” find peace boring, therefore, they unconsciously shake things up and invite in drama. The drama contains an energy reminiscent of the vibration of childhood chaos.
5. Reset your reference point. Establish goals that are based on achieving peace and abundance, then celebrate their achievement.
6. Discover new ways to get your pulse pumping. Repeatedly revisiting the vibrations of fear, disempowerment, and anger give the body a “surge.” That surge can accidentally be linked with feeling alive. In order to actively choose a happier vibration, you want to reconnect “the links” by associating a surge with healthy stimuli. Some examples might be decidedly helping others and getting a rush from their successes, physical adventures or exercise, creating something, public speaking, trying something new that takes courage, etc.
7. Recruit a happiness buddy. Swap encouragements. Use each other to celebrate living in a higher vibration, and use each other as support allies when the lure of the old vibration is compelling. Let your buddy guide you past old powerful, self-defeating habits.
8. Our journey here on earth is to continually seek a return to the vibrational energy of love, from which we are each derived. The earth realm has complex vehicles that make navigating our way back to that vibration very difficult but, ultimately, we each make our way there - maybe not in this lifetime, but at some point. Make it easier on yourself to get there by setting that phenomenal, blissful vibration as your destination.
You can do it. I believe in you. You deserve to be happy. When you step into new levels of happiness, agree with me by staying there :-)
Recently, someone asked me why I never use the word “God” in my writings, coaching, and presentations. He was right. I don’t.
When I started this journey of openly sharing what I “get” through my conduit to universal knowledge, there were a few decisions I made about how / what I would convey. I stick to those guidelines as best as I can:
- Keep busting myths. There are so many myths about right/wrong, life/death, or good/bad. These myths tether us. They bind and limit our ability to be free and to uncover or improve our own conduits to truth.
- Don’t use any religious terms. Everyone has history. Our perspective is based on how information was presented to us, and also based on how aligned with love our childhood experiences were. Religion, therefore, is a very personal matter and words that we throw around as if they only contain one meaning can be, in fact, used or interpreted with very different meaning based on one’s upbringing.
- Do my best to provide new positive possibilities to empower people.
- Keep my conduit as unencumbered as possible. If the information that I get from non-physical sources or through my visits to the energy realm are filtered through personal biases, then the information may not be of great value to audiences or clients.
Now back to the term, God. The specific reason I don’t use the term is that there are a large variety of interpretations about what God means. For some, God is a benevolent old man who is our creator and represents love. For others, God is an omniscient male figure that determines our fate, including doling out punishment and rewards. Others turn to God as their source of comfort and strength. Some see God as the ultimate judge of right or wrong, dictating specific actions that a person must take or must not take to win his favor. The point is that there is not one agreed upon version of what or who God is. Therefore, my preference is to use terms such as “all that is” or “the universe” to describe this source, terms which can dissolve limited associations that many make with the term God.
From my “consciousness travels,” here’s my version of God:
God is neither male nor female in energy. God is love. God is creation. God is eternal. God is original consciousness. God is existence itself. God is the universe.
As I see it, love expands. Every soul, every human, every bit of everything is an extension of that expansion. Picture a beautiful ball of energy, radiating and expanding, sending sparks of itself into existence. We are those sparks. We contain all of the infinite knowingness of our original source. The journey of the soul is to recall it all. It is to reconnect with our ability to vibrate at the purest vibration of love.
Since we are each sparks of God, then we are each God. God, therefore, is you and me. We are all connected, on earth and eternally. We are love. We are each infinite and powerful. The idea of separateness creates all of the chaos that we see or experience on earth. When we remember that we are love, when we remember that we are original source, when we remember that we are God, then limits fade. Truth emerges. The process doesn’t happen in one second. It occurs as an evolution through the journey of our souls. And our ability to recall this truth is a testament to the power of love.
When we recall that we are God, we let go of the idea that we are less than. We are not less than. We are everything.
When we recall that we are God, we let go of the idea that some are better than others. No one is superior to another. Their lives just play out differently based on the specific equation of their childhoods, coupled with how far along the soul’s journey they are in their travels back to the pure vibration of love.
When we recall that we are God, we let go of the idea that some force controls our destiny. We recognize that we co-create our journey with and within all aspects of existence.
When we recall that we are God, we realize that we are powerful and we become stalwart in not handing away our power.
When we recall that we are God, we remember how joyful life is and we remember the peace and happiness that are within each of us.
When we recall that we are God, we move from living as encumbered humans to living as free souls.
If we are God, does that mean that we don’t have support, a higher power, or a source of unconditional love to guide us? Does that mean that you have to be one hundred percent self-reliant? No. One of the most interesting discoveries that I make while in the energy realm (think a near-death experience without the trauma to get there) is that two apparently contrasting ideas do not actually negate each other. One of those ideas is that we are one and we are distinct. We do not need to be one or the other. As such, we are God, yet God is also a distinct consciousness. When we turn to God for support or understanding, therefore, we are igniting the God within us as the conduit to connect with God-consciousness. An amazing miracle about human life is that we are never alone. We are always supported and guided and even protected. In the process of remembering that we are God, we are recollecting that the infinite power of God is in us, near us, with us, and for us. Realizing that power unlocks our individual power.
Even after writing this essay, you will still not hear me use the term “God,” unless your guides specifically suggest that I use that term with you. That indicates that your guides know your interpretation of the term matches what your guides intend it to mean when they say God.
The bottom line is that you are as important as everything, and everything is as important as you. Since God knows this to be true, that means you know this to be true, also :-)
I often say that the animal kingdom is a lot smarter than the human species. We have a lot to learn. Let’s take a peek.
Animals trust their instincts. Call it inner guidance, innate intelligence, or intuition, animals don’t talk themselves out of pushes and pulls.
They don’t get into an elevator with someone who gives them a psychopath vibe.
Animals don’t let guilt rule their lives.
They peacefully co-exist among vast variety.
They’re adaptable. Did you know that the arctic fox’s fur turns brown in the summer?
They are super eco-friendly.
When animals discover a problem, they immediately seek a solution.
They don’t gossip.
Animals don't waste.
They wake up happy.
Animals don’t think they look fat. Did you know that a blue whale weighs approximately the same as 30 elephants?
Animals don’t dial down their potentiality by thinking that they’re not good enough.
Animals don’t worry.
Most animals don’t go gray as they age.
Animals teach and model, but they don’t make silly rules.
They don’t get all hung-up about sexual orientation, monogamy, or gender identification. Did you know that oysters can change their gender multiple times throughout their lives?
They don’t care about religion.
They connect through consciousness.
Animals don’t kill for the furs they wear.
They eat when they’re hungry. A tarantula can go over two years without food.
Animals sleep when they’re tired. Did you know that a giraffe typically only sleeps an average of a half-hour per day?
Animals don’t do for others that which others can do for themselves.
They don’t fret over parenting roles. In some species the moms stay home with the kids, and in others, the dad. Likewise, sometimes the females dominantly hunt, and others, the males. None do laundry.
Animals don’t let guilt rule their lives. Did I state that one already? Yeah.
Animals don’t over-complicate everything.
Animals don’t think they’re superior to everything on the planet.
Animals live respecting the vast symbiotic relationships among the planet, and the animal and plant communities.
Okay … so honestly, I like some animals more than some people, and some people more than some animals. But what I really like is animals and people who live in honor of everything.
We each have within us the seed of truth that allows for self-governing. When we allow that seed to sprout, we begin to sense an internal compass that is based on a system of honor. There are no laws, rules, or governances that can override or replace this inner wisdom.
This seed enfolds all that is necessary to create an abundant, happy life for ourselves and with others. Nurturing the seed is quite simple. It takes a few dedicated practices, as well as specific habits to avoid, in order for the seed to grow into its richest potentiality. Below you will find a synopsis of those practices to embrace and to avoid.
Let’s look at the idea of self-governing. Collectively, if we separate from our own power, we will pass our power onto others. We can also fall into an unconscious habit of disempowering others as well, through manipulation, ignorance, or even through good intentions.
Think about the stages of growth of a child. It’s natural for an infant to be spoon-fed and gradually mature into self-feeding. The healthy maturation process is enhanced by the child’s natural desire to do for himself. Even if a caregiver resists the natural development because he or she fears the child “growing up too fast” or likes the role of caregiving, the child’s instincts will likely reject dependency and strive for autonomy.
As the child grows, the link between autonomy and independence may grow more obscure if caregivers allow their emotional needs to override the child’s innate desire for self-sufficiency. For example, parents may not let a child cross the street, ride a bicycle, go to a friend’s house, or play outside for fear of injury or otherwise. A parent may continue to pick out the child’s clothes, do all homework with him, and pack his backpack for school long after the child has the capability of doing these things for himself. Further, a caregiver may remove the child’s opinion from their decision-making process, thus severing the trust that the child innately had had in himself.
The emotional needs of adults often sever the innate link that children have with their inner knowingness by doing too much for them and/or by heavily restricting their autonomy. This same process often occurs at an organizational level (governmental and religious) as well. Rulers or legislators who are elected or appointed to power who do not live in a state of self-love or within in a system of honor will create increasing numbers of rules and regulations to direct others’ choices and behaviors. The underlying premise is that people are not innately wise enough to make decisions for themselves. The result is a parasitic form of co-dependency that often becomes so behemoth that it cannot progress. The dependency and need-for-power cycle may continue to the point that self-determination becomes extinct.
Contrarily, what does life look like for a group of self-loving individuals living within a system of honor? First, there is happiness, abundance, and freedom for all. Self-loving communities who live in honor respect each other, respect the planet, respect ideas, respect the plant and animal communities, respect their bodies, and respect that everyone is doing the best within his or her level of awareness. They honor the individuality of each person and encourage each other to ignite their greatest potentiality. They do not need someone to tell them how to think, how to feel, what to believe, or how to act. They do not steal from others through greed or otherwise, disempower people to fill holes in their own feeling of self-worth, nor do they dictate or legislate every last detail of others’ choices.
Their answers come from the seed within each individual, a seed that was allowed to grow and to thrive into a powerful state of self-determination. The inner compass is not based on manmade rules or imposed morality; the compass is based on eternal knowledge and love.
If you would like to increase your ability to live an empowered, inspired, emboldened, energized, self-determining life, then review these practices. Make a point of increasingly embracing those that grow the seed, and letting go of those which suffocate it.
Here is a brief look at what does NOT allow for the healthy growth of the seedling:
Fear – when you live in fear, you pass your power onto another source instead of tapping into the power within you.
Judgment – judgment prevents growth. Period.
Jealousy – a healthy dose of competitiveness, or even envy, can act as a fuel to ignite our talents. Unchecked jealousy, however, is analogous to an invasive plant species that can choke everything around it, including itself.
Greed – we are entitled to unlimited abundance and are not entering into the realm of “greed” until we have more than we can own, maintain, or attain with integrity.
Guilt – guilt is learned. Unlearn it. Guilt is the antithesis of inner wisdom. In our attempt to gain approval or acceptance, or to avoid some imaginary punishment, guilt quiets our inner knowingness and replaces it with others’ views of what deems us worthy. Guilt is like trying to grow a plant without a light source.
Shame – shame is perhaps the single greatest stifling emotion, preventing growth and joyful expansion. The process of releasing judgment of others can eventually help us to release judgment of ourselves as well.
All the above emotions/habits create a need to seek authority outside ourselves. We lose the ability to unlock reason that aligns with honor. Here are some simple practices to grow the seed instead of stifle it:
Question everything – do not supplant your inner wisdom with the pleas or arguments of others, especially if another’s suggestions are based in fear, jealousy, and/or greed.
Listen to your intuition – the more you live in fear, the more your gut feelings and inner guidance will be quieted.
Turn off the news – in today’s world, unless you live way way way off the grid, you will always know enough about the happenings in the world to be informed. Saturating yourself in a daily onslaught of negative news reports is like drinking battery acid. It will rot you from the inside out.
Quiet your mind – get yourself out of the way on a regular basis through walks in nature, exercise, music, meditation, yoga, etc. The quiet mind is the passageway to eternal truth and inner wisdom.
Love yourself more – self-love is the foundation for all happiness, success, fulfillment, and harmony. If you haven’t read it lately, re-read BEGIN HERE.
If you would like guidance to help you discover your harmonious path, contact Karen for coaching or a one-on-one session. An investment in your happiness today pays for itself through prosperity, love, and peacefulness.
“Karen, you are like a lighthouse standing tall amongst your surroundings and casting a brilliant beacon of white light onto our world. I am grateful that your beam casts its way to me. Thank you for who you are and what you do.” - Ric Statler, Huntington, NY
I rescue kittens and birds. I talk to strangers. I hug trees. I look at people in the eyes. I do not cower. I do not retreat. I do not live in fear. I do not let others tell me how to think or how to feel or what to believe. I believe in myself. I believe in humanity. I believe that every human being has the birthright to be respected, to be loved, and to be free. I stand up for myself. I stand up for others. I recognize that differences cause many people to be afraid, to fear that which they do not understand, and I do my best to observe their behavior, prefer mine, influence for the better what I can, and move on.
Complaining is a non-productive luxury we cannot afford. Wallowing in self-pity or fear of others is a waste of time. If pointing fingers is the only exercise someone is getting, I suggest they go outside and run or hike or walk. The body movement may even accidentally "get themselves out of the way" so that they can glimpse the truth that can come through a quiet mind. The truth is we are one, here, there, and everywhere, on and off earth.
What controls you? Fear? Government? Low self-esteem? Disempowerment? Make a decision right now that the only thing that controls you is you. For better or for worse, that’s where the power lies.
So, head up, stand tall, be all you are meant to be, and ask others, in kindness, to do the same.